Deciding on Custody

Divorcing or separating parents would be able to set aside their personal differences and decide — together — the best custody option for their child(ren). But it doesn’t often work out so smoothly, which leaves it up to the court to make the best decision on behalf of the child’s own best interests. When deciding who gets child custody, courts, judges and court commissioners (who do family law) consider a wide range of factors including household stability, relationships with the parents, and income. Below are answers to some of the most commonly asked questions regarding who gets custody.

If my child custody case goes to family court, how will the judge decide who gets custody? In deciding who will have custody, the court will consider a number of factors, but the main consideration is always the child’s “best interests,” although that can be hard to determine. Often, the main factor is which parent has been the child’s “primary caretaker.” If the children are old enough, the courts will take their preference into account in making a custody decision.

How can I get legal help with my child custody case? You need to speak with a child custody lawyer for sure. It is vital especially when the custody of your children is at stake. An experienced family law attorney can not only answer questions about child custody in your case, but can also be your strongest advocate, both with opposing counsel and the court. The best way to get started is to look for a family law attorney near you with experience handling custody disputes.

A friend who has gone through a custody dispute told me that the judge in his case placed a lot of importance on determining who the children’s “primary caretaker” was. What is a “primary caretaker”? In custody cases, the “primary caretaker” factor became important as psychologists began to stress the importance of the bond between a child and his or her primary caretaker. This emotional bond is said to be important to the child’s successful passage through his or her developmental stages, and psychologists strongly encourage the continuation of the “primary caretaker”-child relationship after divorce, as being vital to the child’s psychological stability. When determining which parent has been the primary caretaker, courts focus on direct care-taking responsibilities, including grooming and dressing; meal planning and preparation; health and dental care arrangements; and teaching of reading, writing, and math skills. My wife and I just filed for divorce. Who decides who will get custody of our children?

Often the answer to the question “who will get custody?” will be determined in large part by the process that is followed by the parties involved in the child custody situation. In most situations where parents reach an out-of-court agreement on child custody and visitation, the question of “who will get custody” is mostly up to the parents themselves, usually with input from attorneys, counselors, or mediators. If parents in a child custody dispute do not negotiate some form of agreement before going to court, then the custody decision will be made in court, usually by a family court commissioner.

I am the father of a six-month old boy. His mother and I never married, and I am wondering what I can do to get custody of my son. What are my options?Often, an unwed father often cannot win custody over a mother who is a good parent. But, if you can establish that your son’s mother is unfit for parenthood or is incapable of taking care of him, you may be able to get physical custody, especially if you can show that you are the child’s “primary caretaker.” Even if you cannot get physical custody of your son, you should be able to obtain shared legal custody, giving you the right to make important decisions about your son’s upbringing and welfare. In any case, an unmarried father can take steps to secure some form of custody or visitation rights, and ensure an ongoing relationship with his child.

Can anyone other than a parent get custody of a child? In some cases, people other than a child’s parents may wish to obtain custody — including relatives like grandparents, aunts, uncles, close family friends, or other people who wish to get custody of a child. Some states label such a situation as “non-parental” or “third-party” custody. Other states refer to the third-party’s goal in these situations as seeking “guardianship” of the child, rather than custody.

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People who want a lot of Bull go to a Butcher. People who want results navigating a complex legal field go to a Lawyer that they can trust. That’s where I come in. I am Michael Anderson, an Attorney in the Salt Lake area focusing on the needs of the Average Joe wanting a better life for him and his family. I’m the Lawyer you can trust. I grew up in Utah and love it here. I am a Father to three, a Husband to one, and an Entrepreneur. I understand the feelings of joy each of those roles bring, and I understand the feeling of disappointment, fear, and regret when things go wrong. I attended the University of Utah where I received a B.A. degree in 2010 and a J.D. in 2014. I have focused my practice in Wills, Trusts, Real Estate, and Business Law. I love the thrill of helping clients secure their future, leaving a real legacy to their children. Unfortunately when problems arise with families. I also practice Family Law, with a focus on keeping relationships between the soon to be Ex’s civil for the benefit of their children and allowing both to walk away quickly with their heads held high. Before you worry too much about losing everything that you have worked for, before you permit yourself to be bullied by your soon to be ex, before you shed one more tear in silence, call me. I’m the Lawyer you can trust.

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