The final stage of a divorce is the filing of the notice of entry and the notice of withdrawal. This is the end, but it could also be the beginning.
Sometimes, things are not done correctly and need to be modified or situations change. Call Ascent Law LLC to discuss these changes if they have happened to you. Divorce is generally comprised of five key stages. Each of these stages will usually need to be completed before the next one can begin.
Application for the Divorce (Divorce Petition)
Either you or your spouse will need to begin the divorce proceedings by completing the Divorce Petition and submitting this to the Court. The person who completes and submits this document is called the Petitioner. The Divorce Petition will need to prove that the marriage has irretrievably broken down, and must also state the reason for this breakdown. If you are completing the Divorce Petition, you should also consider whether you wish to apply for a Financial Order for the benefit of yourself and/or any children of the family. In certain circumstances, the Petitioner may also wish to apply to the Court to claim the divorce costs back from the Respondent. Once the Divorce Petition is completed, it will be lodged with your local regional divorce centre for the Court to administer. There is usually a Court Fee of £550 which is payable to the Court (unless your financial circumstances mean you are exempt, or entitled to a reduction, from the Court Fee.)
Acknowledgement of Service
Once the Divorce Petition has been submitted to the Court, this will be issued to the other person (called the Respondent) along with the Acknowledgement of Service. This document offers the Respondent the opportunity to respond to the contents of the Divorce Petition and confirm whether they wish to dispute/defend what is stated. They will need to return their completed Acknowledgement of Service to the Court and once this has been administered by the Court; the Petitioner should receive a copy with the Court’s seal upon it. If the Respondent fails to return the Acknowledgement of Service, a separate application may be required to enable to divorce to continue. This is because the Court will require proof that the Respondent has been served with the divorce proceedings. Alternatively your spouse may indicate that they are defending the divorce. In this case, there will be further steps required, so that the Court can decide whether the divorce should proceed.
Certificate of Entitlement
Once the sealed Acknowledgement of Service has been received from the Court, an application can be made for Decree Nisi. Decree Nisi is where the Court considers whether the contents of the Divorce Petition meet the law’s requirement for granting a divorce. If it is granted, the Court will set down a date for your Decree Nisi to be pronounced and the Certificate of Entitlement shall inform you of this date. If the Acknowledgement of Service has not been returned, an alternative Order will be required from the Court, granting permission to apply for Decree Nisi.
Once Decree Nisi is pronounced, you should receive a sealed Decree Nisi document from the Court. This is an important step in the divorce process as it means that not only are the Court satisfied that the criteria for a divorce has been met, but it also means that Court can now consider whether to grant a final Financial Order. It is a common misconception that the divorce and financial proceedings are the same. These are two separate proceedings which require different applications; however the financial proceedings are dependent upon the divorce proceedings being started beforehand.
Decree Absolute is the final stage of the divorce and, once pronounced, this means that your marriage has ended. The application for Decree Absolute can only be lodged with the Court following a wait of 6 weeks and 1 day once your Decree Nisi has been pronounced. Although the Decree Absolute will bring your marriage to an end, it is usually best not to apply for Decree Absolute until any on-going financial proceedings have been completed. If you have not already started financial proceedings, you may wish to speak with a Divorce Solicitor to help you decide whether this is something you should consider before applying for Decree Absolute. While the divorce process is generally the same for most people, the length of time it takes can vary dramatically. This depends on factors including whether the divorce is contested, how long the Regional Divorce Court takes to administer the divorce and how quickly documents are completed and returned.
Getting over a divorce can be difficult for anyone, but research studies have shown that men have a harder time getting over a divorce than women in many cases. Divorce can also be harder for men in other ways. Several surveys and research studies have shown that men who go through a divorce are more likely to die at a younger age, have heart problems, and have substance abuse issues. In addition to these hurdles, men are often more emotionally attached in their marriage than women.
Getting Over Divorce
Getting over a divorce is harder for men than it is for women. Men tend to hold onto a marriage longer and harder than their female counterparts. They tend to look at divorce more negatively than women at first, even though men tend to remarry faster than women. Men also must face more emotional adjustment challenges than women, primarily because of the loss of intimacy, loss of social connections, and reduced finances. Men also typically get the short end of the stick when it comes to custody and visitation, and in these cases, men must also cope with losing time with their children.
Men Often Skip The Grieving Process
It is healthy to have a grieving process after a divorce or breakup, much in the same way as you would grieve a loved one who had died. The death of a close family member is the only thing that is more stressful than a divorce. If you skip the grieving process, you may find yourself at a loss with no idea what to do next.
Research studies have found that men often have more health problems following a breakup or divorce. Whether this is due to picking up or resuming bad habits, or some other unknown explanation, are not agreed upon in the psychological and medical community. But the fact remains that most men have their health decline immediately following a divorce.
In addition to coping with the stress of the end of a relationship, men have to spend time finding themselves and figuring out who they are alone. Men are much more likely than women to have few or no groups or activities, and they typically see themselves as half of a partnership. When they find themselves suddenly alone, they don’t know who they are without their spouse.
Getting Through Divorce
Getting through a divorce is often much harder for men than for women. There are several reasons for this. Men crave emotional relationships and connections as much as women do. Research studies show that men are typically happier in their marriages than women. They also tend to be the one facing divorce unexpectedly, whereas more women initiate divorce. Divorce also has more negative connotations for men than for women. A divorced man is more likely to have worse physical and mental health after a divorce than their spouse. Men are also more likely to develop feelings of hopelessness after divorce. Part of the difference in the health of men getting through a divorce is that women encourage men to be healthier. With the woman out of the picture, men are more likely to smoke cigarettes, drink alcohol, and abuse other drugs. Another difference is that women tend to have better support in the form of friends and family than men. In the short term, men often find it harder to start dating again after a divorce or breakup. Although men tend to remarry faster, it takes longer for them to get back on the horse. This suggests that men take longer to be ready to date again, but they have a much clearer idea of what they want and when they find it, they remarry quickly.
Moving On After Divorce
Moving on from divorce, how long it takes, and how well you can cope is based on several factors. There are at least ten different factors that can play a role in how long it takes for a man to get over a divorce. Other factors may also be present depending on your situation, but the most common factors to affect how long it takes to get over a divorce are below.
The Length Of The Marriage
Psychologists suggest that it takes an average of one year for every five to seven years of marriage to get over a divorce. It stands to reason that the longer you are married, the longer it will take to move on from divorce. The longer you are together, the more assets and belongings you have to divide, the more you have to think about children you have had together, and the harder the adjustment will be to living alone again.
The Element Of Surprise
If you didn’t see the divorce coming, it can be a huge shock and take much longer to accept and move on from. If your spouse seemed to be happy, or even indifferent, and you didn’t know there was a real problem, divorce could come as a complete surprise. In a perfect world, couples would communicate well enough that such a thing could never come out of nowhere, but in reality, often a divorce seems sudden and out of the blue.
Whether You Were The Initiator
Men who initiate divorce find it much easier to move on from divorce. Because men are less likely to end a relationship, if you did initiate the divorce, it probably means that you have already accepted that the marriage is broken, and you are no longer happy the way things are. Having that acceptance greatly reduces the amount of time it takes to get over the divorce. However, if your spouse initiated the divorce, you may feel betrayed, abandoned, or unloved, making it harder to get over and move on.
If your spouse cheated on you, it could make it harder or easier for you to get over the divorce. For some men, if their spouse cheats on them, it is automatically the end of the relationship. The man will often leave and accept that the marriage is over, and move on with his life quickly. However, for some men, the pain of their spouse being unfaithful could make the divorce that much harder as feelings of pain and betrayal muddy the waters of recovery. On the other hand, if your spouse didn’t cheat on you and the problems were much deeper, it could take longer for you to come to terms with the divorce.
If there are children involved, you are much more likely to take a long time to get over a divorce. This is because you will still have to communicate with, see, and co-parent with your ex. You will not be able to completely remove yourself from the situation to heal, which can make that healing take longer. This is especially true if you and your ex have a very hard time getting along for the children’s sake.
Income level affects divorce in a big way. If you are financially stable and make enough income to support a household on your own, you are much more likely to be able to move on from divorce quickly. This is because you have the financial freedom to set up a new household the way you want. You also have more options for legal representation when you have flush finances, which can greatly help to get through a divorce with fewer feelings of anger and resentment. However, if you lack in income, it can make moving on very difficult.
Having A Job
Most men do have a job, but if you are self-employed, retired, or disabled, you may not have that supportive work family. Research shows that if you have a job when you start to get divorced, you will have more support and be much more likely to adjust well to the transition from married to single.
Mediation vs. Litigation
If you can work with your ex-spouse to collaborate on a divorce settlement in mediation with a third party, you are more likely to get over the divorce more quickly. Not only is going to court for your divorce more financially draining and give you less control over the outcome, but drawn-out litigation could also be more emotionally draining and trying.
If you are generally resilient and optimistic, generally seeing the positive in things, you are more likely to get over your divorce quickly. On the other hand, if you are resistant to change and have a hard time coping with stress, it could take longer. Seeing a therapist can help you gain resiliency so that you can move on with your life.
Unfortunately, many men lack the support systems that women often have. Men tend to have fewer friends, and they tend to have less contact with the family. If you don’t have a good support system of friends and family, and possibly a therapist, you will not have an easy time getting over your divorce.
When you need legal help with a divorce in Utah, please call Ascent Law LLC for your free consultation (801) 676-5506. We want to help you.
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